My husband and I are celebrating our 25th wedding anniversary next year. In all that I have read on renewal etiquette, it is not appropriate to have bridesmaids and ushers.
We want to have both, since I came from a family of 10 and out of the 10, we are the first to reach 25 years and we wanted to have my 4 sisters and 5 brothers be part of the wedding and our 2 sons walk me down the aisle and my daughter be my "maid of honor". After reading all the articles, I am a disappointed to know that this is not the right thing to do. We did not have a big elaboroate first wedding and we were really looking forward to celebrating 25 years of our love. Please let me know your opinions on this.
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Re: [dherring] Bridesmaids and Ushers for Vow Renewal
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Dear Dherring,
Congratulations for reaching your 25th! That is amazing.
But, everything you have read is true. Honestly, if you really think about it without personal involvement, doesn't it seem a bit odd for a wife to be presented as a bride? But, this doesn't mean that your vow renewal can't be even more special than a wedding. The exciting element of the vow renewal is that it can be so different than a wedding. You can invent components. Instead of attendants, your family members could light candles or read a poem of how your love has inspired them. There really is no limit to what you could do as long as this doesn't resemble a wedding.
Please read more about vow renewal etiquette. This is the newest and most comprehensive societal view on the ceremony.
Bridesmaids and Ushers for Vow Renewal
