Need some advice here. I married my husband almost 30 yrs ago in a civil ceremony due to his being divorced. Coming from a large catholic family, I missed out on much and we have both wanted it to be in church. We have now gotten the proper annulment and the way is clear for us to married in the church. I have always dreamed of full white wedding with dress and all. My family and friends are so excited for us. We are planning on re-newing? our marriage in the catholic church in a full long catholic marriage ceremony. Can I treat this as a first wedding? What about my kids? We are planning a formal night wedding. Tux tails for groom? and the original best man is thrilled to do it again. Should I have bridemaids? maybe 2? plus a flower girl my youngest daughter? Can I wear a wedding dress???? My heart really wants to...? Should there be a reception? We plan on about 40 people. Who gets tipped? Any answers, help or links is greatly appreciated.
You are a married woman, not a first time bride. 30 years ago you and your husband made a choice to marry before he had a annulment. I'm sorry but it is not proper, polite, or even logical to host a wedding.
A blessing of your vows or convalidation ceremony is treated and planned as a renewal of your wedding vows even though this is a Catholic ceremony. These are usually private family affairs with very few guests, no wedding dress, no attendants, and it isn't a wedding. If you plan this as a wedding, it more than likely be viewed as something other than a proper event--the negative remarks have been many and not polite to print. Of course, most will not say anything negative to the people hosting these events.
Please read our very many posts on this subject and just one of the many articles about proper vow renewal etiquette. Of course this is mentioned in every etiquette book that mentions renewals or blessing vows.
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