My fiancee and I plan to get married with about 20 people at a wedding chapel in Feb. 2005. This will be an informal affair. My mother is planning to have a very small and intimate reception at her house for the people 20 quests, which is okay with me.
My fiancee and I are planning to have a fairly large wedding reception in August 2005 for the people who won't be in attendance to the Feb. wedding. My question is, will it be okay to have a small reception at my mother's house and then another in August. Also, my cousin wants me to wear her wedding gown(which is gorgeous) for my wedding in Feb. 2005. Is a wedding gown inappropriate to wear at an informal wedding? And last question, I want my 14 year old daughter to stand with me, along with another family member. But I don't want my 8 year old daughter to feel left out of the ceremony. How can I include my 8 year old in the ceremony? Although she is 8, she's very tall for her age and looks older.
The wedding chapel said that if we want to use a flower girl, we can. But wouldn't that make our informal wedding a formal one? Please help me. I want to do what is best for everyone.
Denise
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Dec 10, 2004, 12:40 PM
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Re: [denise_m09] Help me!! Informal or formal?
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Dear Help Me,
Sure, it is fine to have your big reception later in the year. This is not dissimilar to a destination wedding. Often the couple will host a reception later so they may include a larger group of people who love them in their celebration.
Usually your dress should convey the formality of your event. However, if this is a sentimental gesture, I'm sure no one will balk. After all, you will only have 20 very close friends and family attending. Everyone there will probably know that this is a nod to family.
Here's an idea for your children. Both of your children could walk you down the aisle. Or, they could be included in a unity candle lighting. I think to have a flower girl may be a bit too much. But, this is your decision.
Help me!! Informal or formal?
