My husband and I have been married for 2 years. His parents want a Blessing of the Marriage (as they're Catholic) and a Vow Renewal (actually I think they'd prefer if we hadn't actually gotten married at the Justice of the Peace but it's to late for that). Is it possible to do the Blessing and the Renewal together or would that seem too much like a wedding? His family wouldn't mind the faux pas of it but I really didn't even want a big ceremony for my original wedding. Our Blessing/Renewal won't be taking place until after our 3 year anniversary.
What I was thinking (and wondering if it would be considered to much like a real wedding) is this:
Have 2 Attendants because I want the amount of people even, and one of them will be holding my child. (The Attendants will be my childs Godparents)
Walking with my husband and our child down the aisle (but passing the child off to one of the attendants)
Informal Wedding dress for me, Husband isn't sure but thinks him mom is going to suggest (Read insist) he wear a Tux
No rings exchanged (we already have them)
The blessing of the marriage by the Catholic Priest, and exchanging of renewed vows (I'm thinking we will write our own)
Flowers (and the reason for the other attendant because I was told that I'd have to give my flower to someone while resaying the vows and it's easier if they're already up with us)
After the blessing/renewal having a rather large (because with my husband's family there is no such thing as a small party) reception, with a regular cake (probably our 3 year Anniversary cake), dancing, and a dinner.
I was also wondering (because I know my mother-in-law wants it) if it'd be alright to have a mother/son dance (no father/daughter because I'm estranged from my father)
Thank you for your answers
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Re: In-laws want a Blessing and Renewal
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If you're having a Blessing of the marriage, otherwise known as a Convalidation in the Catholic church, there is no reason for a vow renewal since the two of you will be reciting vows during the Convalidation ceremony. There are no attendants needed for this ceremony and it is most often very informal. Please reead a few articles on Convalidation, Blessing of the Marriage and Vow Renewal Ceremonies at IDo TakeTwo.com. I believe all of the questions you have can be answered in several of those articles.
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In-laws want a Blessing and Renewal
