My Wife and I will be married 25yrs Our children decided to put on a renewal party for us without asking us. They want us to renew our vows and are basically putting on a 2nd wedding or thats how it sounds. My wife is thrilled, I am not. The party is fine but the renewal part bothers me. My reason are no one should be forced to renew there vows. I have never been a big believer in them as I said them in front of God and my family 25yrs ago. I was told I have 4 days to write the vows and few other things. I told my wife that I am not happy about this and was told that I should just shut up and do what I am told as this is good for my kids and family. As they say the path to Hell is paved with good intentions. This is my wife and mine anniversary no one else. Not very happy about this what do you suggest
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This service should be about the couple who want to re-commit to each other. The children have little or nothing to do with the ceremony.
You know the old addage, "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink"? Well, you can't be forced to renew your vows or be forced to attend. Better have a good long talk with your wife and get on the same page. Frankly, being told to shut up, in my opinion, would be a real deal breaker. Not only do I think you shouldn't be renewing any vows, I'm thinking you might benefit from some family counseling. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I agree. Plus, you could mention that you have been doing a bit of research and have found that it is considered inappropriate and a bit silly to pretend to marry again. A vow renewal is not a wedding. Your children may want to check out a book or two.
Of course, it might also be helpful to inform them that you are the parent and don't appreciate being spoken to as they have. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Kids putting on Renewal not happy
