My son and his wife are both in the Navy. They were married a year ago in a civil ceremony and planned to have a Catholic wedding when they returned to the States. My daughter-in-law was taking classes in the Catholic faith and was to be baptized at Easter. However, the priest would not baptize her unless their marriage was validated by a priest. So in April they were married in the Church and she was baptized at Easter. They would still like to have a wedding reception this fall and renew their vows and celebrate with all those who were unable to attend either "wedding." What would be the proper way to word invitations, who should be invited, is it proper for her to wear her wedding dress (which she has purchased, as well as all the bridesmaids who have also purchased their dresses). Any advice would be appreciated and I know I am the MOG so I really don't have any say but I am wondering what is proper.
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WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
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Re: [MOG47] Military married overseas
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Dear Daughter in Law Wants Three Weddings,
The first ceremony was a wedding where they could have all of the elements of a wedding--in the eyes of proper etiquette. The second should have been a blessing of the church, not a wedding. After all, they are married.
The third ceremony is a bit over the top. A vow renewal isn't a wedding and she has already had two ceremonies. It most likely won't be viewed positively and more as a plea for those wedding gifts not received. I mention this because this is what I hear from guests to these events.
The most appropriate event would be a party to celebrate their wedding. But, it would be a bit late for a reception. They would be married for well over a year.
She shouldn't be wearing a wedding dress or have bridesmaids. This is very improper. She isn't a bride. She is a wife.
I'm sorry. But, this really isn't appropriate. All of us have to make choices. She chose to marry a year ago. A vow renewal is best planned on a bench mark anniversary. It can be hosted earlier, if planned carefully.
Military married overseas
