Hi, My husband and I got married a month after we had our first child we didn't get to have the wedding we wanted. See neither of our families had the money to help and we certainly didn't have any money so we just paid some guy to marry us. We didn't recieve any gifts and didn't have a reception. My husband and I had to buy all of the stuff for our home. We would like to know if it is ok to have a ceremony with our family and friends on our fifth anniversary? We also would like to know if we can register for gifts for our anniversary since we never recieved any gifts before? I have just been so disapointed that we didn't have the money or memories of the day that we should have. Please help,thank you.
No, it isn't polite to register or expect people to give you gifts for an anniversary party. You are already married, so it isn't polite to host a wedding or any other gift giving situation for yourselves. If you would like to host a vow renewal this is fine, but it shouldn't appear to be a wedding.
Life is all about choices. We can wait for the wedding we can afford to host, which most couples are paying for these days. Or, we can do what many do--marry quietly and forego the large ceremony. But, it is never appropriate to host wedding once you are married.
Please read more about vow renewal etiquette. This can be a very special event, based more on your love for each other and never about the gifts.
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