My husband and I were married in a courthouse this year. Only my mom and grandma were present and they were very upset. After seeing my sister-in-law get married for the 2nd time last night in a pretty ceremony, I want one too. I had originally planned one to begin with but it fell through. I would simply like to have another ceremony in my church and have it blessed by a pastor. I have never worn white or had a nice ceremony so would that be allowed now? would we have to do it on the same day as our other wedding? would I be allowed to accept gifts.. i mean I am not going to ask for any but would people think I was 1. stupid or 2. asking for gifts if I have this thing? Is it common to redo a wedding? My mom or family never even gave me anything during the first but my in laws did. I just want my son to have a photo at least of his parents wedding.
We have a lot of posts just like yours so please read these and use the search to locate more of the same answers.
A wedding is a service to join two people in marriage - you have already done this. For whatever reason you chose not to be married in the church or to have a large wedding, but you made that choice and you are married now. Unfortunately, you'll have to live with that decision since once you are married you cannot be married again. However, if you would like to have your marriage blessed by the church, you can speak to your pastor about having a church blessing. In the Catholic church this service is called a convalidation. You could also consider having a vow renewal ceremony but typically these are done at significant times during the marriage such as benchmark anniversaries or after times of strife. These ceremonies are not weddings or gift giving events. To don a bridal gown and host a ceremony/event that appears to be a wedding when you are already married will not be viewed positively by your guests. Imagine receiving a wedding invitation from a couple you know to have already been married. Again, you can search for and read the many, many posts on this subject, some from guests.
For future couples thinking about elopement of civil ceremonies please take some time to consider what you are giving up before moving ahead. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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