My husband and I got married last year and it's our 1 year wedding anniversary on the 9th of April. Our Wedding was not what we had hoped for because our families were running their own agenda and there for most of our wishes were ignored.
My question is- is it OK to have your vows renewed after 3 years of marriage? We want to do it our way- write our own vows and throw a cocktail party after the ceremony and we also want to exchange eternity rings and have our 3 young daughters involved- this is very important to me. I also want to wear a bridal gown but only a casual one, the one I am looking at is white and is 3/4 length. My husband and I want our dream wedding and we feel that we have hit a milestone in our relationship and we think that getting our vows renewed will mark that.
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I'm sorry you allowed your parents to be so controlling. This is the reason couples are getting away from letting parents pay for, and plan, their weddings.
Typically a vow renewal is held for a significant anniversary or to mark a specific life changing event such as a death of a child, partner's serious illness or getting back together after a long separation. I don't see your milestone and perhaps your guests won't either. Having a vow renewal simply because you want to have the party and fanfare you didn't have last year probably wouldn't seem right. Also, vow renewals should never mirror a wedding so your vow renewal would not be your dream wedding. Please read more about wedding vow renewal etiquette.
This is why we always encourage couples who write in telling us they will be married now and then next year have "the wedding they always wanted", that this is not a great idea. If it were me, I would wait until at least the 5 year anniversary. But, of course, it is your choice. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Mar 27, 2007, 10:14 AM
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I couldn't agree more. Please plan well, so this is well received. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Mar 27, 2007, 7:21 PM
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We have decided to wait until our 5 year anniversary
We also understand that it's not a wedding, however because we are planning things ourselves our vow renewal will be what we want it to be and not what other people want it to be. Our wedding was beautiful, just not what we exactly wanted, but that is OK.
Thanks for the advice though, this website is very informative and its the best one i have came across!!
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Glad we can be helpful.
Just remember that we are not making up this information and this isn't our opinion. You've asked about what etiquette says about a vow renewal and what seems to be globally expected by most.
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