My husband and I were married 3 years ago at the JP. We couldn't have a wedding because of his overseas military obligations. Our families have never met, including our parents. We are planning to get them together over Christmas. Would it be too strange to have a vow renewal instead of just a family cookout? My husband and I have had a difficult marriage from the beginning, and we would like to start over. We weren't married in a church, and we would like to proclaim our love for each other in the church and with our family present.
Also, my husband and I would like to be baptized. Would it be awkward to have a vow renewal, small reception, and then the baptism? Or should it be the other way around: baptism (God is first priority, right?), small reception, then vow renewal? Or should these be two completely separate events? We only have two full days with our families together, so we are kind of pressed for time. In my mind, combining these two events makes sense because it's a renewal of our faith and of our love for each other.
We don't want anything big and fancy. It would just be our families and possibly a handful of very close friends. Any suggestions?
It may be best to view this from an outside perspective. While the idea is sweet, you will be directing the focus of a family gathering completely on you. It will be all about the two of you instead of the families getting to know each other.
But, you could have your vows renewed in the church. It may be best to speak to your minister about the baptism and the timing. If it is simply a blessing and a bit of water on the forehead, then it could be part of your vow renewal.
This shouldn't be a wedding-like event--no wedding elements. Please read more about vow renewal etiquette.
Renewal and Baptism
