Hello . I found this forum looking for a different question for someone else and came across here. I thought I would ask the question I have (I did find the answere to the other person question from here). Here it goes
My husband and I have been married for a little bit over 5 years now. The day we got married, was the same day his parents divorce went was finalized. Every so often we talk about having a renewing ceremony on our 10 year anniversary, since we didn't have the wedding we planned (he couldn't wait another 6 months..lol), and gotten married by the Justice of the Peace. Everytime we talk about it, we have a hard time because his parents. They divorced on bad terms, and there is no way possible to have them to be civil in the same room at the same time. We would love for them both to be there for the renewing of the vows. The question, how can we have them there? Is there an alternative? His dad has since re-married not long after the divorce was final. We did think about having it somewhere just the two of us. On the other hand, my husband wants to see my dad walk me down the aisle, and have other family members there as well (ie:some his relatives, and mine). I hope this isn't too confusing..lol. I do appreciated the help and advise. Hope everyone's weekend was good.
I can surely understand that you want both of your parents to attend your vow renewal. However, if they cannot be civil to one another your day might be ruined. If you could speak to them both privately, asking them if they thought they could possibly ignore each other for the day for your sake. Maybe they can or maybe one or the other will opt out. Consider recording the event in case either or both parents do not attend.
As for your father walking you down the aisle - this is not typically done at vow renewals since you are already married.
Please read more about wedding vow renewal etiquette while you are planning. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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