HI I was just wondering, what is the proper time to renew your vows?
My husband and I were looking at renewing our vows for our 5th wedding anniversary. We recently just completed our family with 6 children. But these past two years we have had a really rough time. Almost resulting in a permant seperation. After reconcillation and counselling, we thought that if we renewed our vows then that would be a nice fresh start.And also a rememberance as to why we fell in love, and recommit ourselves,spiritually. But at the same time I don't want to come across as it being a waste of time or something that is unimportant, in other ppl's eyes. So what can you tell me or point me in the right direction? It would be appreciated, thank you so very much.
MANY couples choose to do a vow renewal after crisis or a period of estrangement. My suggestion: Make it meaningful. Make it blessed.
If you explain to family and friends why you are renewing your vows, everyone may be quite moved.
Perhaps it would be helpful for each of you to answer the following questions before your vow renewal. After you have answered these questions on paper, exchanged them privately.
What are the qualities you most love, respect or appreciate in your spouse? Why? Elaborate.
How does he/she balance you?
Name a time you felt closest to your spouse. Describe that moment,how you felt and why.
If there were no tomorrow, what would you want your spouse to know? For what are you the most grateful? What would you miss the most?
Describe how committed you are NOW to your partner and to this marriage.
What do you find most special, unique or beautiful about your relationship?
Then renew your vows. Be sure to keep these documented words for the tough times.
Congratulations on making it through the rougher times. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Renewing our vows
