So, after reading all these posts and your etiquette page, I'm confused. Are you saying that we should not have big fun wedding-type renewals? Dresses, attendants flower girls are all out?
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No, wedding vow renewals can have many of the same things that make up a wedding such as a beautiful, new dress (fitting the style and formality of your event and location), party to follow, cake, music, dancing, and food. Follow the etiquette guidelines laid out here:
Etiquette is just basic logic. So, you wouldn't have your father walk you down the aisle since you are already "given away" and living with your husband. You wouldn't have a bachelorette party since you've already had your last night of freedom. You are not having a wedding so some of the parts of a wedding wouldn't fit for already married people. Just use good, common sense and you'll be fine. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Thanks, because I've got to tell you, it was starting to sound like you were against the whole party with the renewal. I didn't get to have a big wedding either but because I am re-affirming my vows in a Catholic church, they WANT us to go the whole gamut if we want to. I didn't want to look like a gift-grubbing idiot. We just want some of the traditions we didn't get to have those years ago. Thanks again.
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You don't have to worry about looking like a gift grabber because a vow renewal is not considered a gift giving event. Some of your guests may bring a gift but it shouldn't be expected.
The focus should be on the ceremony, the reaffirming of your comittment and the chiuch's blessing of your marriage. Then, the party to follow should be more like an anniversary party than a wedding. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Absolutely. As long as this doesn't appear as a wedding and you follow simple common sense, it will be positively received. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Okay so I have already had people ask about the gift part,...a friend recommended telling them if they absolutely felt like giving to have them donate to a charity. What do you think of that?I want to say no gifts on the invitations, how would you word that?
Because this is viewed as more of an anniversary party, you can mention 'no gifts please'. Although this is not viewed as a gift giving situation, sometimes people want to give. This helps your guests. If you mentioned donating to charity on your invitations, it may seem as if you expect gifts. So, this wouldn't be a good idea.
You can definitely tell people to give to charity if they ask. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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