Here it is. My husband and I have been married for 5 years on sept 16, 07. When we married before, it was us two and the pastor. I am my husbands 5th wife. I have never been married. I always dreamed of having a wedding with my sisters and best friends. We are having the wedding at our home, which we just bought. We are having attendents and groomsmen, ushers. A friend is walking me down the isle, and we may resite our own vows. My husband has 4 grown children and they are all attendents in the wedding. My question is am I over doing it. My husband loves me and wants me to be happy, so he says to do what I want to do. I don't think he really wants to do this. Have a gone to far with all this. What do you think?
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I'm confused. You say you and your husband have been married for 5 years and then later you say you have never been married. Which is it? Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I am very sorry about that. I meant that this is my one and only marriage and I am my husbands (5th) wife. I guess having a wedding if the last thing he wants, but I really want what I never got to have. We are having attendents and ushers, and the renewal of vows will be in our own back yard. I was wondering if this was too much. Trying to keep it simple seems to not be working out. Is all this taboo are should I got with it?
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It is unfortunate that you didn't select, or maybe couldn't select, to have a big wedding 5 years ago. But, you did make that choice and you are already married. A vow renewal should not appear to be a wedding. After all, you are already married. Having a ceremony that appears to be a wedding could cause your guests to be confused. Plus, a wedding ceremony is a gift giving event and a vow renewal is not which means that having a service which looks like a wedding could appear to your guests as an attempt to get get gifts instead of what I'm sure is your focus - exchanging your vows before friends, family and each other. These reasons could be why your husband is feeling uncomfortable about what you're planning.
Wishing you many more happy years as husband and wife, Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I couldn't agree more. This could cause quite a bit of embarrassment to all. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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