While living in another country, my best friend married her fiance in a small civil ceremony. They had a small reception with close friends, and she had a bachelorette party. However they did not register or receive any gifts. The wedding was held mainly to aid in his immigration process, and was held in too short of notice for anyone out of the country to travel there and attend.
They are now in the U.S., and want to have a "2nd wedding" to celebrate their marriage with friends and family who could not be present at their original wedding. She has a huge family that she is very close with and they want to be involved. My friend has turned to me to help her plan this celebration. I'm fairly certain that she expects me to plan a bachelorette party and bridal shower for her. From reading several of your posts on the subject, it sounds like this is not appropriate. I also understand and will recommend that they need to call this a "renewal of vows" since they are already married. My questions are:
1) Since they have not received any gifts, would it be OK for them to register for this 2nd celebration?
2) She wants to wear an ivory colored dress and have her father walk her down the isle. Is this OK?
3) My friend is very open to receiving advice from me, but I don't want to hurt her feelings. How do I tell her that some of the things she has her heart set on are not appropriate? Especially since it would be a financial burden on me and the rest of her friends to hold bachelorette parties, etc.?
Thank you in advance for your help!!
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Thank you for your quick response. I have read through the rules twice now. I'm fairly certain that my spelling is correct and that I used proper punctuation. My deepest apologies if I missed something.
I look forward to your hearing back from you.
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My apologies. Here is my revised question:
Dear Etiquette Expert,
While living in another country, my best friend married her fiance in a small civil ceremony. They had a small reception with close friends, and she had a bachelorette party. However they did not register or receive any gifts. The wedding was held mainly to aid in his immigration process, and was held in too short of notice for anyone out of the country to travel there and attend.
They are now in the U.S., and want to have a "2nd wedding" to celebrate their marriage with friends and family who could not be present at their original wedding. She has a huge family that she is very close with and they want to be involved. My friend has turned to me to help her plan this celebration. I'm fairly certain that she expects me to plan a bachelorette party and bridal shower for her.
My friend is very open to receiving advice from me, but I don't want to hurt her feelings. How do I tell her that some of the things she has her heart set on are not appropriate? Especially since it would be a financial burden on me and the rest of her friends to hold bachelorette parties, etc.?
Second Wedding, Different Country
