My husband and I had planned on a nice wedding and at last minute he was called away for duty and the wedding deposits were lost and a wedding never took place except for vows. We didn't even get to announce it. I lost thousands of dollars and didn't even get to put on my dress. We are renewing our vows from the 10 yr mark of when we started dating because the day we married was not a date we chose, we just knew we both wanted to take them before he left. The vow ceremony the first time consisted of me, my best, his wife, and my husband with JoP in our living room before he was about to leave. We didn't even get a snap shot of it (And neither of our parents were to happy about it either)
Q: Since I never did anything the first time am I to still follow the etiquette of a regular vow renewal ?
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Re: [militarybride] Second vows and first wedding
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Dear Military Bride,
I'm sorry about your loss of money and your expectations. It is so difficult these days. In my days, it was the Vietnam War. Sorry.
I think you know the answer or you wouldn't have asked it, which means that you are worried about 'doing the right thing'. Bravo.
There are many different types of weddings. Some are a few words spoken in front of a judge and some are eleborate ceremonies. But, a wedding is a wedding. It is legally binding.
The simple way to look at it, is to ask yourself if you are a wife. Will you have to get an annullment or divorce to marry someone else? If you say yes, then you are married and had a wedding.
It is your choice whether or not to follow social expectations. But, if you choose to, your ceremony can be wonderful. You have many more choices than you do with a wedding. Just veer away from what you typically expect from a wedding ceremony.
Second vows and first wedding
(And neither of our parents were to happy about it either) 
