You can disregard my earlier post, after reading all of the posts in this section I already know what your answers will be, and I do not agree. You say that everyone makes the decision to not have a wedding when they ellope so they shouldn't have one, hoverever, if me and my husband had not decided to serve our wonderful country, we could have had the wedding of our dreams. We have been through more in our short lives than most people ever go through, my husband is permantly wounded from combat and military doctors took my ability to have children (im 24). So you are right about this being my opinion when I say that to all those military wives out there you should do what makes you happy, and don't worry about what two "so called wedding specialists" say, (that is just their opinion, too). I am going ahead with my plans, and I am not asking anything from anybody except to come to a beautiful cave and see me remarry the man I love and a lovely costume party afterward. I know my family very well, and it will make them very happy to see me get my day (already married or not) They don't think I am silly, selfish, unapropriate, or anything of the sort, and those are the only opinions that really matter.
Although we appreciate your sacrifices for our country, I'm going to be blunt here, since we have had this question over and over. Everyone thinks their situation is different. Unless there was someone there holding a shotgun to you and your fiance, you made the choice to get married. So, you're married. No do-overs, no matter what Hollywood would have you believe.
We all have our trials and tribulations to deal with in life. I won't list my many, many difficulties, including my husband dying serving our city while fighting a fire. Hardship doesn't entitle us.
If you're inviting people to come and see you remarry, they will be expecting a remarriage ceremony, and should be surprised to see all of the wedding "stuff". If they are polite, and they love you, they won't necessarily say anything since they won't want to hurt your feelings.
Funny that you trusted these "so-called wedding experts" to answer your question until you realized we wouldn't agree. Most wedding experts won't. Beware those being paid to help you plan your event since they have a financial stake in telling you what you have planned will be fine. Most reputable professionals would let you know the truth.
We thank your husband for his efforts on our behalf. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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