My fiancé and I are planning on being married by the Justice of the Peace before he leaves for Iraq with just family present. We want to get married in the Catholic Church when he gets back and have the traditional big ceremony. The only problem is that is will be two years since the date of our first private ceremony. Our parents have expressed that it is not proper etiquette to have a large ceremony at that point. I was just wondering if it is really looked down upon, even if we were never married in the church or had a ceremony with our extended family and friends?
I read some of the other forums, but I felt like some had answers that it was alright and others said no. According to one, it said that we would address the invitations as Mr. and Mrs. would like you to join us for our vow renewal. Any advise would be great...very stressed by family!!
Thank you!
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Your parents are correct. Since you will already be married it doesn't make sense, and isn't appropriate, to have a wedding. Once you are married you cannot be married again. However, if you would like to have your marriage blessed in the church, there are ceremonies for that purpose depending on your religious affiliation. A vow renewal can technically be right but it is usually viewed more positively for a benchmark anniversary or after being married for years. These ceremonies are not weddings, though, so no wedding gown, walk with father down the aisle, pre-wedding parties, etc. Please review the many posts we have on this topic already on this forum.
Good luck with whatever ceremony you choose and God bless you and your groom for the sacrifices you are making for our country. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Mar 26, 2008, 1:38 PM
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I completely agree. Be very careful with your planning because even the blessing of your marriage isn't supposed to appear to be a wedding and is usually a very small family affair. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Two Weddings Because of Military Deployment
