When my husband and I were married, it was horrible. I wanted a wedding and started planning it but my mom and stepdad said they hoped I didn't think they were going to pay for this "thing" so we just went to Laughlin and were married by a justice of the peace. Although my husband and I told our family members and friends what we were doing only my father came to support us. We were both very hurt and I have always had an empty hole when I think about our ceremony.
We have now been married 10 wonderful years and we want to renew our vows. We are planning a vow renewal at a "secret" location and plan to only tell a handful of people because if the "secret" got out it could stop the ceremony before it even starts.
I really want to send out vow renewal announcements after we do our event. I think people would enjoy what we did and happy to hear that we made the 10 year mark. I want to replace those old bad memories and empower us by doing something we see as righting a wrong and doing something to make us happy and I'll be proud to announce what we did. Since we were not able to ever send out announcements when we were first married and don't want, nor need/expect presents now is it really that wrong of us? Or tacky?
Please don't send vow renewal announcements. These may appear as a plea for gifts, because it is confusing. We don't send anything like this out. So, the receiver would most likely be wondering why--jeez they must want gifts.
If you are doing this for you, then that is enough. There is no need to announce it.
You could host an anniversary party for yourselves afterward though. This way you could share your love story with everyone.
Most of my family and friends live far away so an anniversary party is out of the question. If an announcement states "No gifts please, we just wanted to share our event with you" then does anyone think that clearly defines what we want to do, no other motive than that?
Vow renewal announcemetns
