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mrspig




Post #1 of 5 (1832 views)
     family unity candle ceremony during a vow renewal ceremony  

My husband and I were married 10 years ago, when we were 19. We are looking for a "do over" considering the first marriage was not exactly what we had hoped for. We are opting for a church and holding a reception where we were first married. Our daughter (5 years) will be our flower-girl and our son (10 years) will be a junior usher. We would like to somehow incorporate them into the ceremony to signify our growth as a family. We are planning on using a vow renewal format and hoped to somehow incorporate a family unity candle, however, all of the ceremonies we have found are for blended families.... any thoughts?


(This post was edited by TWQadmin on Nov 23, 2008, 5:49 PM)

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Post #2 of 5 (1827 views)
     family unity candle ceremony during a vow renewal ceremony [In reply to]  

Let's start off by saying what we always say on the forum - there are no wedding "do-overs". Weddings are ceremonies to join two people in marriage. Since you're already married, the ceremony you should choose is a vow renewal or blessing of the marriage (if done in a place of worship). Please speak to your pastor for more information. There are no attendants for a renewal, but your children can certainly participate in the service, even at their young age.

We had an answer to your question regarding the unity candle ceremony for a vow renewal on the forum before.

Please be sure to search the former posts before posting new so that our experts can reserve their time to answer new questions. Keep in mind that we all answer in our spare time and are not paid for responses.

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(This post was edited by TWQadmin on Nov 23, 2008, 5:49 PM)

mrspig




Post #3 of 5 (1826 views)
     Re:family unity candle ceremony during a vow renewal ceremony [In reply to]  

With all do respect, I did read the previous posts and found that they either pointed to companies that sold unity candles or led to a unity candy ceremony that was meant for blended families, as did this post, unless I am missing something...


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Post #4 of 5 (1823 views)
     Re: family unity candle ceremony during a vow renewal ceremony [In reply to]  

Maybe I misunderstood. I pointed you towards one post where Reverend Susanna gave some good information about including your children in the vow renewal ceremony.

Are you asking us to give you the unity candle ceremony? Did you need something more?
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RevSusanna
Interfaith Wedding Minister




Post #5 of 5 (1802 views)
     family unity candle ceremony during a vow renewal ceremony [In reply to]  

Yes! And here goes...words for a family unity candle ceremony during a vow renewal ceremony.

For this, you will need four individual tapered candles plus a Family Unity Candle (chunkier candle).

(Wife/Mother and Husband/father each light a candle to symbolize the light of their individual spirits.)

Celebrant: 10 years ago, you jointly lit a unity candle to symbolize the sanctity of your marriage. From your marriage, the light of two beautiful children came forth into being.

(Both of you, along with one of your children at a time, light a candle---that is, 3 on one candle---to symbolize the light of his/her soul.)

Celebrant: Now we ask you as a family to light a Family Unity Candle representing the sanctity that is family. May it shine as a beacon light. May it be an indestructible force. May it be a source of love, warmth and comfort always.

What a blessedly wonderful example for your children!
Reverend Susanna Stefanachi Macomb
Author of Joining Hands and Hearts, Interfaith, Intercultural Wedding Celebrations, A Practical Guide for Couples



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