I am not sure how to deal with my mom (actually my step mom). I gave my Dad a picture of him walking me down the aisle at my wedding for Father's Day. She looked at the picture and said something to the effect of "you already had a wedding why do you need another one?" My wedding day was not my wedding day it was what she and my sisters felt I should have. Most of my ideals got totally ignored and they did what they wanted to do. My younger sister (step mom and dad's daughter) had a huge wedding. Very formal with evening gowns and tuxes. She had a wedding photographer who my parents paid for. (I didn't have one) My other sister renewed her vows around a year and half ago in a private ceremony with her husband. She wore a wedding gown and had the pictures she always wanted. Our renewal ceremony is going to be rather simple. I am not having attendants. I only having a flower girl. I am having a floor length Ivory formal dress because I didn't have it the first time however I will not be wearing a veil.
My husband and I are going to be renewing our vows at our church and my church family is going to be heavily involved. The renewal ceremony is going to be about the renewal of our relationship and the deeper spiritual relationship we now have. How am I going to answer people when they questioned me on this? I guess I really should not care, but this bothers me. I feel as if some of the family believe I don't deserve to have what my other sisters already have had. This really aggravates me. I also would like to invite my biological mother since she did not come to my wedding. The problem with this is my older sister is not on speaking terms with her. I not sure what I should do. I do know that my biological mother would be really touched if I was to invite her, but my sister would be ticked.
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These are all your personal decisisions to make. You and your husband should plan the vow renewal ceremony you want (I'm not sure why or what you'd have to explain but maybe I'm missing something?) and invite the people you care about to attend. Your sister wil have to get over herself. If you feel uncomfortable inviting anyone then don't invite them. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Thank you, I was feeling rather bummed out. I have decided if she doesn't want to come that it is up to her. I am going to enjoy myself anyway. Many people who know my husband and I are doing this are very thrilled for us. My girlfreinds who didn't come to my wedding are going to help me with my renewal. I am finally getting to have a photographer and have the pictures I always wanted. I am excited.
Well, maybe if you have a calm talk with her she will come around. Let her know that you would be hurt if she didn't attend but that ultimately it is her decision.
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