I have been with my husband for 12 yrs and married for 2 yrs. We never had a wedding and just ran to the court house to get married. My father has cancer and is not taking to the treatments very well. We would like to get married in the church and I would like to have my father walk me down the aisle but feel silly because we are already married, have children and a home, etc. I have already called and made plans for the wedding on Valentines Day which is 3 weeks away. Would it be inappropiate to have him walk me down the aisle and have my family(which is large) and close friends there and have a small luncheon afterward?
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I think a more appropriate ceremony for the two of you is the blessing of the marriage or a convalidation ceremony if you're Catholic. But, having your father escort his daughter, who is already a wife and mother, would probably seem odd. (Plus, your dad may not be up to that physically.) Perhaps consider including him in some other way, such as a unity candle ceremony or something like that. These types of ceremonies can be wonderfully warm and endearing when planned and executed by/with those you love. The kids can participate too.
I wish your father to have as little suffering as possible. God bless all of you during this bittersweet event. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I agree. This isn't a wedding and shouldn't appear to be one. But, just follow the examples we have on this site and you should be fine. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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