My husband and I were married 4 years ago by a JP without any of our family in attendance. His family didn't even know we were going to do it. Needless to say they were not happy that we weren't married in the catholic church and we have continued to hear jokes and comments about it since then. Nothing mean, but still....
So we have decided to get married in the church for our 5th anniversary which is this summer. I have picked out a dress that is white & gold, but no veil and no train. I will walk the aisle, along with my best friend holding my oldest daughters hand, and my husbands closest brother carrying our youngest daughter. My oldest daughter & best friend will have matching dresses that are not overly formal.
We are having a reception with buffet dinner and DJ for dancing. We'll have a first dance as a newly remarried couple. There will be a tower of cupcakes rather than a wedding cake, and the decor will be simple but elegant.
Does this seem like I'm making any errors? The invitations will also say that we are renewing our marriage, and there will be no showers/parties before hand. We are trying to have the wedding we never had without stepping over the line. Your opinion would be great!
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Re: [xangel1] vow renewal? need advice
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The type of service you are referring to is called a blessing of the marriage or a Convalidation Ceremony. Neither of these ceremonies include attendants though. A vow renewal ceremony would not include attendants either, unless you were re-creating the original wedding, which you're not. Ask the church how they feel about your daughters participating in the ceremony.
All of these ceremonies are not weddings and should not appear to be a wedding. You can dress up to coordinate with the formality of the church, time of day and party venue.
If there is a party to follow the service then it should be treated more like an anniversary party. The "first dance" doesn't have to be announced since you're already married and have had many dances since then. But, you can have a dance to celebrate the convalidation or whatever service that is performed. The invitations should include the terminology reflective of the type of service you select after visiting with your priest.
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vow renewal? need advice
