Re: [michellemerrill] children at ceremony
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After reading your post, I found myself wondering what the question is here.
Are you overreacting? It's your father. It's your history. Are you?
From an objective perspective, with absolutely no history, and very little to go on, I find myself thinking that when someone plans their wedding, they want it to be a certain way and they make requests of loved ones to comply with that vision. They made a request. They told you what they wanted.
When you choose to be offended by their request, what do you get? How do you treat them? The suggestion that your husband not attend may have been just as offensive, if not more so, to them, from where they sit. Seems like a lot of offenses are getting passed back and forth here.
What's the outcome you'd like to have? If you're looking for a last straw, so that you no longer have to ever be in relationship with your father in any way, then looks like you've found it.
With all the losses you shared, I find that option quite sad myself. Are there any others that would feel better to you in the long run? So that you have no regrets when all is said and done?
Here's another perspective to consider: Your infant daughter is not going to be irrevocably harmed if she is not at the wedding and with a sitter. Your older daughter is much more aware and is being honored to be a part of the ceremony. There are so many things to appreciate about this wedding and what they want -- what do you get out of choosing to be offended and to focus on what's wrong -- and making your father and his new bride so wrong for asking for what they want?
That's my humble opinion -- for what it's worth to you. Emily Bouchard, MSSW, Life Coach, Speaker, and Trainer
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