My fiance`and I both agree, we don't want people to give us gifts. Instead I thought it would be great, if guests wanted to make a donation to (we haven't specified the charity yet, but it would be something for the poor...Children), then we would like them to do that instead, and I guess I wondered what, if any is the proper ettiquette on suggesting this on the invite? etc.
We could probably enclose the information for the organization in our invitation...
Thank You. Lauren from Redondo Beach,CA
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Dear Lauren:
I can appreciate your position, and thank you for being so kind, however it is considered impolite to mention gifts on the wedding invitation since it implies you were expecting gifts.
The only proper way to get your message across is to inform family and close friends, and they will spread the word. Many wedding guests will ask for gift preferences of if you have a gift registry so, at that time, you can let them know that in lieu of gifts you'd appreciate a donation to (name of charity).
Also, if you have a personal wedding site, you can list this information right on the site. These sites are really handy to take care of all of the details like directions, acommodations and RSVP it's a wonder how we've done so well wiothout them. They are getting ver inexpensive too; some as low as $50!
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Thank you so much for your response. It's been a long time since I was first married... This time it's not all about me.. HA HA... Thanks for the advice, and I will figure out the organization, and then I will inform the family and wedding party so they can spread the word.
Thanks again!
Lauren
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We do get to understand about what's most important as we grow a bit older, don't we. Hopefully, the younger ladies visiting the forum will take note.
It's not about the gifts and the dresses and all of the frills, is it? Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Frills? Gifts? Yeah, I guess you could say they are nice but, how many of us really use all the crap we get? Look in your cupboards!
To me it's about making our love legal and acknowledged through GOD. Then the people that care about us and love us that want to be there.. GREAT..
Heck, my first wedding, we invited people I never saw again; why spend the money? Give it to someone more in need...
There are children starving, and families without shelter. What a gesture of a kind spirit. If more people looked outside of themselves and really looked around and really listened they too would feel it!
The Spirit of Love.
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Amen...your focus is on the right things, Lauren.
I wish you love, happiness and peace! Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
2nd marriage Donation in lieu of gifts
Hopefully, the younger ladies visiting the forum will take note. 