I am getting married for the second time, and it will be my fiancée’s first marriage. We are planning a traditional wedding as it her family's first marriage too (she is the oldest daughter of three). There are no children from my previous marriage.
I have the following questions:
Since this is my second wedding, should we send different invitations to my family, indicating that they do not have to give gifts?
My first marriage was small in terms of attendants (best man and two ushers). Is appropriate to ask one or more of them to be in my second wedding? Best man is my best friend, and the ushers are my cousins. All are still part of my life. I will likely not ask all, but may ask at least one. My new partner has never seen pictures of my previous wedding, so she does not know who was in it, or any other details. I am not sure I should tell her about it or not.
Do I contact my ex to let her know? I do not have contact with her, but the news will likely get back to her because we have mutual business associates. We left the relationship on a civil basis, but I have not seen or spoken to her in well over a year.
Thanks!
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edited by TWQadmin on Nov 29, 2005, 8:40 AM)
1. You would never mention anything about gifts on a wedding invitation since this would imply you are expecting gifts and this is not appropriate. You can tell your friends and family, if asked about gift preference, that you prefer no gifts from them.
2. It is acceptable to ask your best friend to, once again, stand up as your best man. I would not keep this a secret from your fiance. Let her know that he was the best man in your first wedding and, since he is still YOUR best friend, that you are asking him to be your best man again.
3. You are under no obligation to contact or inform your ex-wife, especially since you have no children together and you have no contact with her now.
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