I've never pictured myself as a bride, nor have I ever dreamed about what my wedding would be like. Here I am, at 53 (fiance is 61), and my mother is making me feel like I'm 21. How do I convince her that it's okay if I don't have a huge church wedding?
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Sometimes it's the dream of the mother to have a big wedding for her daughter. Tell your mother how you feel and listen to how she feels. Perhaps you can find a way for your mother to feel like a very special mother of the bride without having the fancy wedding.
The issue of being married in the church is a whole other story. If she is religious, and you're not, you'll have to make your feelings clear. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Congratulations--both on finding love and on having a normal relationship with your mother! We've been doing pre-marriage readiness classes for over fourteen years and your situation is extremely common. If you come up with a good solution, let us know!
The site administrator is exactly right. Most mothers want a lavish wedding for their daughters and can be a bit pushy on getting what they want. Sit down with your mother and have a heart-to-heart talk about what is really important to you. Then be prepared to make a few compromises to make your mother happy. It is, after all, only one day and it should be joyous for everyone.
We would suggest you and your fiance get some good pre-marriage counseling. At your ages, there is bound to be emotional "baggage" from previous relationships that will need to be faced. Also, be aware that marrying at a later age (we got married at 42) can be both wonderful and frustrating, since we tend to get set in our ways a bit.
53 year old bride wants small wedding
We've been doing pre-marriage readiness classes for over fourteen years and your situation is extremely common. If you come up with a good solution, let us know! 