A few questions for 2nd marriage in very small ceremony
This is a second marriage for us both. We are both in our mid to late 40's, blending seven children all living at home. We are getting married in very small chaple, inviting immediate family and a only a few close friends.
1. Do we have to send official invitations. I've already sent a very informal "save the date" via email. The notice stated the ceremony was going to be very informal, no tuxes, no suites, no shiney shoes no gifts. Is this sufficient?
2. I do not want to wear a dress. Would a nice blouse and pair of pants be suitable.
3. We do not want any gifts. How do we politely tell folks?
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Jan 23, 2006, 10:41 AM
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Re: [2xacharm] A few questions for 2nd marriage in very small ceremony
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Dear Second Wedding,
Yes, you will have to send a wedding invitation because you send save the date cards, which really shouldn't mention gifts. These invitations do not have to be formal. You could call or send very informal letters.
You can wear anything you wish. It is your wedding and it is informal. However, a swimsuit would probably be over the top :)
The best way to convey that this you are not expecting gifts is to tell people.
Re: [Et.byRebecca] A few questions for 2nd marriage in very small ceremony
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Thank you. The "save the date" was actually only an email that sent to immediate family members so hopefully I didn't offend anyone by mentioning the "no gifts". It was in the form of a riddle.
Another question. I really don't want to WALK down the isle. Is there a way around that?
Thanks
2xacharm
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Jan 23, 2006, 12:12 PM
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Not to worry, the 'no gift' suggestion is not a major problem. I really only mention it for others who may be reading. Your guest list is so small and close to you, they won't be thinking anything but good thoughts.
You don't have to walk down the aisle. You and your groom could walk in from the sides of the room toward each other. Honestly, this gives a very positive message that you two are entering into a new life together. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
2xacharm
Jan 23, 2006, 1:12 PM
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Thanks, I like the idea of walking in from opposite sides of the room.
Would it be inappropriate for me to make the invitations on a PC to mail for the family and friends?
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Jan 23, 2006, 1:19 PM
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Not at all! These are fine. In fact, many people are creating their own invitations in this manner. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
A few questions for 2nd marriage in very small ceremony
