My BIL getting married, his last engagement was called off 1 month before wedding, he is now re-engaged to the same girl with a date set for 2/19. What is the etiquette for this type a situation? The family is all a bit confused about what to do. Do we have another shower? Are we required to give a gift at the shower? When the wedding was called off she returned most of the gifts, of the 5 gifts I had given at first shower only one was returned and it was broken, the others they had used, so she kept them..
Also they are planning a huge wedding again, a lot of the family thinks its a big joke. What is any etiquette for this? I can't find any answers or books that hint on this type of situation. Your advice is greatly appreciated.
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Dear Confused,
A shower is an optional event. Plus, family should not host one unless that family member is an attendant. So, your family wouldn't be hosting one anyway.
In this case the young bride has already received a shower by the family. So, this is your choice if family members want to attend one if someone is to host one for her.
As for wedding gifts, if a family member gave a present for the first round, they shouldn't feel obligated this round. However, I am one of the few etiquette specialist who believe that all gift giving is optional. So, in my opinion the family should give only if they want to.
Almost 2nd marriage?
