What is the proper etiquette for a second wedding? My sister recently got married for the second time and invited our parents and one of our sblings but did not invite the other three (myself included). She claims she wanted to keep the cost down which I understand but there are others ways in which she could have kept the cost down and still invited all the siblings. Also, had I and my other siblings been invited, we would have given her monetary gifts (more than enough to cover the cost of a meal). I'm highly insulted as I feel she should have either invited ALL the siblings or none of them and consider this to be a real "slap in the face". My parents are also disappointed in my sister's decision and spoke to her about it beforehand but my sister is very stubborn and refused to reconsider.
Had I been the one who was invited (and the other siblings weren't), I would have politely declined the invitation saying that I wasn't comfortable in attending knowing that my other siblings were hurt by not being included. Was it proper for the sister who was invited to attend knowing full well that it was going to cause problems with the other siblings?
We all had a decent relationship before this happened and now this has caused conflict in the family.
Although disappointing and hurtful to you, from an etiquette point of view, your sister was the host and as host she chooses the guest list. Please discuss this with your sister and let her know how much you would have liked to be at her wedding. Talk to her about her hurt you feel and use "I feel", rather than "you made me feel" as a way to communicate without anger.
Good luck. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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