This will be the third marriage for both of us, but not to each other. Our first weddings were in a church. His second was at his house and my second was a civil cermony. My 21 yr old daughter thinks we should just have a civil ceremony since its our 3rd. He and I would like a small church wedding since its our first to each other. We wanted to get married in September. The problem is that with the economy and financial circumstances the way they are, we have come to the conclusion that we can't afford a church wedding with a reception right now. He suggested that if we get married through the courts now, when we live together we can cut expenses and save for the wedding we want with our close friends and family. Is that okay to do?
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Be careful with this. The result of a wedding is a marriage, and if you get married civilly first you'll already be married - no point in having a wedding then. There is no second chance at a wedding. Wait and have the wedding you want and can afford. But, depending on your religion, you may have to ask your clergy person if you'll be able to marry in the church without having an annulment or other paperwork. Get some religious advice and counseling.
Good luck - they say the third time is the charm. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I completely agree. If you wed, no matter what type of wedding it is, you are married. So, if you host another wedding for yourselves later, it isn't real; it is pretend. It is often viewed as silly and an excuse to expect guests to give you gifts, even though it is not supposed to be a gift giving event.
A blessing of your vows would not be a wedding and shouldn't appear to be one. These are supposed to be small, intimate, family affairs only meant to have your wedding vows blessed by the church. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Civil wedding now, church wedding later?
