This will be the second marriage for both of us, and we have chosen to plan a destination wedding in the Caribbean. We will be married on a Tuesday, late afternoon. Our parents are either deceased or unable to travel, so they will not be attending. We would like to invite our other family members and friends, but do not want them to feel obligated to attend, or guilty if they cannot afford to attend. We recently became engaged, and many of our friends and family do not know yet.
We would like to share our good news, however we do not feel comfortable sending a formal wedding invitation, since travel to our wedding would be costly. Therefore, we are entertaining the idea of sending a "save the Date" note (written by us; printed on tropical paper) announcing our engagement, wedding plans, and plans for a reception when we return. In the note, we would like to let everyone know that we will not be sending out formal wedding invitations, but want to extend an invitation to everyone to join us for our wedding, should they like to. We don't want to sound like we expect our family/friends to attend, and spend a bunch of money doing it. For anyone who would be interested in attending, however, we would send them travel information.
Maybe verbage like: We will be married on _____, in a small chapel on the island of ______. Since our wedding will be in the islands and require travel, we do not feel comfortable sending out formal wedding invitations. Should you like to join us for some" fun in the sun" however, we would love to have you join us, and we want to extend the invitation. Please let us know, and we will send you travel information.
Would this be appropriate? If so, what should the wording be? Closer to the reception date, we are planning to send invitations to our reception, that will be held after we return from our wedding/honeymoon.
Thanks for any suggestions, comments, or other ideas!
Lilly
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Mar 20, 2005, 2:38 PM
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Re: [lillybelle] Destination wedding/2nd marriage
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Dear Destination,
The Save the Date cards are the perfect idea. It might be best to mention that these are asking your guests to save the date or these will be simply invitations.
The wording is fine. You could mention that you will not be following up these cards with invitations rather than not feeling comfortable. But, either way works.
Sending the reception invitations after your wedding works fine also.
Destination wedding/2nd marriage
