This is my second marriage, but my first wedding. My son is escorting me down the aisle. How can I acknowledge my dad without him walking me down the aisle? He is remarried and will be sitting in the second pew with his new wife. I dont want him to walk me down the aisle but want to acknowledge his presence somehow. As it stands now we are having him and his wife seated after all the guests are seated, then the special music starts for the seating of the grandparents and the mother. I dont want him to feel totally left out and feel like he is just a guest!!!
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Congratulations on your marriage! Here are a couple of thoughts: at the end of the aisle before you greet your Sweetie and the Officiant/Minister, give your Dad a hug and perhaps a small note that you pull out of your bouquet. Or consider honoring your father with special words and a hug during the ceremony. Or if you have a ritual, i.e., a unity candle, ask your father to participate. Annemarie Juhlian, Wedding Officiant & Minister
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A unity candle ceremony is a terrific idea. Including family members makes everyone feel included too.
Read more about the Unity Candle Ceremonyhere. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Great ideas. Plus, you could also acknowledge him with a toast during the reception if you are hosting one. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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All the ideas already mentioned are great. I find presenting parents with a flower and/or note while walking down the aisle really works.
Here is something else I have done for honoring and including fathers:
Just before the vows, after I have asked the bride and groom to face one another and join hands, I then ask the fathers of the bride and groom to come forward: (Usually it is a surprise!)
I then say to the fathers:
Your children would like your blessing. Do you bless this union? (They say yes.)
Then please place your right hands upon the hands of your children and join me in a silent blessing.
I then hold (in a cupping motion) all the hands together, with eyes closed in silent prayer, for about 20-30 seconds.
I then thank them and tell them they may sit down.
Father's role in second wedding.
