HELP! My fiance' and I recently got engaged. We have a 2 month old daughter and would LOVE to have a nice traditional wedding. However, he has had (2) church weddings and large receptions within the past 10 years. We are from a small rural town and I already feel like "just another"... I doubt that his (now our) friends and extended family would want to come, as they make him the butt of A LOT of jokes over the two marriages and subsequent divorces. Please give me some suggestions that would be a compromise. I want a special day. Even if just a reception. I just need some help on making the most tactful decisions. What about getting married away and having a reception at home? Should I say "no gifts"? And if so, then I kind of miss out. Please give some suggestions on how to make this special and not "just another" wedding for him. Thank you
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Aug 27, 2007, 10:45 AM
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Re: [suniedae] His 3rd my first. His were both formal and large
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Dear Suniedae,
It may be best to read through our many posts concerning proper wedding etiquette to get a feel for what is proper. For example, we never mention gifts on an wedding or reception invitation. And, no one who has given for a former wedding is obligated to give another wedding or shower gift. All of this is in our many posts.
But, you can have any type of wedding you wish even if he has had previous weddings. You can choose to have a destination wedding and then host a reception at home when you return. All of this is your choice and has nothing to do with his former weddings. This is your first together.
His 3rd my first. His were both formal and large
