I'm a bit worried and need help. I'm 54/55 and he's 48/49. We have both been married twice. Both of us had the church wedding, big gown thing. Now, I don't want to walk down the same aisle I walked before, and I don't want to walk the aisle he walked before. We both want a Christian ceremony, but I don't know where to have it. Do we choose a church that neither of us went to or rent a room in big house? I think the rooms take away from the ambiance of a church, even though I've never attended one so I don't really know. What can we do to make ours, this one, the one?
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RevSusanna
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Consider your local Unitarian Universalist Church. They are welcoming of all denominations. Also, you will be free to write your own vows, include poetry---make your ceremony yours---personal, heartfelt and unique.
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If neither of you is of the Catholic faith, why not consider a garden wedding? Many Protestant pastors are willing to hold outdoor ceremonies and they can be beautiful and quite spiritual in nature. If either of you is Catholic, an outdoor ceremony at a sacred shrine or grotto is completely acceptable.
Since you have both been married twice previously, we would suggest that you pursue some solid pre-marriage counseling to help you deal with the baggage of your past and hopefully avoid making the same mistakes in your future marriage.
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that sounds good. I don't mind going to counseling. I'm sure it would help. I just spoke to a lovely couple, been married for 31 years and I said, it's a shame there won't be too many marriages lasting that long in the future. I sure hope it can still happen and really let it be with me Would we ask both our ministers to officiate?
tytbody
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I will sure look into the writing of our own. Never did that before, that could make it special for us. thank you.
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Reminder to please use punctuation as per the rules so our experts can easily read your posts. They do answer for free and in their spare time (spare time? Who has any of that these days?). If you need to remind yourself of the rules, simply click on rules or help.
I'd like to address your comment regarding the lasting of relationships these days. If people would start spending more time on the planning of the wedding ceremony (the vows, church, pre-marriage counseling, etc) and stop putting the accessories and gifts at the top of their wedding planing lists, I think we'd see more lasting relationships. There's just too much focus on "stuff".
You sound like you have your priorities straight now, though. Great news. And, hey, you could be married 30 years too! God willing and God bless. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
DennyandKay
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Asking both your ministers to officiate is a wonderful idea. We are a Catholic and Protestant couple, so for our wedding we had a priest and a minister. They worked out the details together and the ceremony was just lovely.
An interchurch marriage can work beautifully. We just celebrated our 16th anniversary and with God's help we're still going strong! Kay and Dennis Flowers Authors of Catholic Annulment, Spiritual Healing
RevSusanna
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