I have just been asked to be Maid of Honor for my close friend's 2nd wedding. It will be the first wedding for her husband to be. I was in her first wedding. I am afraid to offend her, but I am wondering what my obligations are money wise. Do I get them engagement, shower and wedding gifts? If not, how do I not look like an ignorant person? As the MOH, I will be planning and also paying for part of the shower.....this is a tough position I am in, hoping for some sound advice!
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Re: Maid of Honor in friend's second wedding
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Dear Kasksa,
All prewedding parties are optional and you are not obligated to host them. Please do not feel as if you need to host a shower. An engagement party is not supposed to be a gift giving event. And, you shouldn't feel as if you need to host it. More than likely the couple would host one. It definitely wouldn't be a gift giving event in that case.
Since you gave a wedding gift the first time, you are not obligated to give another one (same goes for a shower gift). But, of course, it would seem strange not to give one. So, only give something that is appropriate for your friendship an within your budget. And, if there are other attendants, you can share the expense.
Maid of Honor in friend's second wedding
