Mother doesn't think we should have a big wedding for a second marriage
I recently became engaged; both my fiance and I have been married once before; each in the local courthouse. I am confused as to what "is allowed"; since neither of us had a wedding the first time. My mother has since my seperation and divorce 5 years ago rubbed in my face that she and my father don't have to do anything because I "forfeited" that right by getting married the first time. I don't have an issue with my parents not "footing the bill", but my mother seems to feel that I should not have the big wedding and reception that I have dreamed of because we were both already married. Please help. Thank You
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It's unfortunate that your first marriages did not work out, but, you're entitled to host the wedding you'd like for yourselves. Of course, you should be considering the fact that the two of you have been married before and your wedding should probably reflect that a bit. There are portions of the traditional wedding that may not be appropriate for the two of you. Aside from the veil, which is typically for the young, first time bride, there aren't many hard and fast rules for second weddings. You and your fiance will have to decide what is appropriate for your age, style and formality. Hopefully, if planned properly, your mom will come around and appreciate that everyone is entitled to a second chance at love. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Dec 27, 2007, 1:44 PM
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Thank you so much. You put that into the words that I have been looking for.
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You're welcome. Perhaps you could send your mother over to us or to www.idotaketwo.com which is all about second weddings for modern times.
Best Wishes, Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Dec 27, 2007, 6:02 PM
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Well said. From an etiquette point of view, you should have the wedding you wish to host, while, of course, focusing on the particulars the Wedding Queen has pointed out. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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