I have finally met the man of my dreams. Now, how do I have a wedding since this is my third and his first?
I eloped for the first one when I was 19 - divorced after 3 years and a battered woman's shelter. The second, I had the elaborate church ceremony and long train, etc. etc. Well, he ran off with my now ex-best friend. That brings me to where I am today. I'm only 31 and found a wonderful man. He's never been married before and most people don't know that I was married EARLY in life. So, where does that leave me as far as options?
My questions are this: I will be married in the church, but how many attendants can I have? I won't have anyone give me away, but how should we conduct the ceremony? What about the issue of gifts? I just bought a house and he will be moving in with me...should we ask for gifts? Due to our budget, we can't take a honeymoon...would it be appropriate to ask for help to take one? We want small, but nice. Please help, October is right around the corner and I don't know what to do!
Thanks.
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A second wedding ceremony should be fairly simple but can be as formal or informal as you like. The formality of the wedding would dictate how many attendants you would select. Please go to:
With regard to your honeymoon, I'm not clear about what you're asking here but I think you want to know if you can ask others to pay for your honeymoon? If this is what you're asking then I'm afraid the answer is no, you should never ask for gifts however, if anyone were to ask you could certainly let them know that you are hoping to plan a wonderful honeymon trip and let them go from there. Let everyone close to you know your plans too. Let them tell anyone who asks about gift preference too.
Go here for more information about second, and sometimes third, weddings! Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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May 17, 2005, 3:16 PM
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Thank you for your advice. The website that you recommended, however; does not include information about third weddings. Is there anywhere I can look? I want to have the correct etiquette, especially living in the south. Although this is his first wedding, he is all for a small intimate ceremony. Unfortunately, I've been the one with the bad luck in men. I want to do this right. I find everything there is about second weddings and renewing vows...I guess I'm an oddball. Should I even have a ceremony at all?
P.S. Should we register at all or not say anything to anyone?
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www.Gettingremarried.com is for any marriages after the first and renewing wedding vows so all the info there is pertinient to your situation.
You can register for gifts but you won't want to include the registry information in any invitations and if anyone offers to give you a shower note that anyone that came to either of your last 2 weddings will not be expected to bring a gift to this shower or the wedding, unless they care to that is. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
My third, his first wedding....
