I'm thinking about getting married now, and having my wedding later?? Would this look stupid? Here's the situation...
Okay, I've been engaged for a year. My fiancee and I decided that we were going to get married the summer of 2006. As you notice, it is going to be a really long engagement. Recently, my fiancee and I have decided to move in together. We know that we are going to be together and get married with no question. The only thing we were trying to do was wait until we graduated from college and get a place. The reason for that was for financial purposes and we didn't have a place or anything. I'm trying to get right with God, so this relationship is very hard for me. So, I'm like why not get married in 2005 and have our wedding that same exact day of 2006. I'm a senior in college graduation December 2005... so it's close! How would I go about doing this??
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I assume that you when you mention financial concerns that you mean you cannot afford the wedding reception now. You could get married in the church now and have a small, intimate reception with cake and champagne and then renew your vows later on, throwing a bigger party at that time. Please be sure to notify the people you hold near and dear. Discuss the options with your priest and your parents and/or extended family and friends. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Thanks! That is a great idea! I just can't get the big beautiful wedding image out of my mind. It would probably be more convenient for me to wait about five years, then have the big wedding! Thanks for the idea!
Etiquette Now
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Aug 30, 2004, 12:25 PM
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Dear Need Advice,
It is true that you can have your small wedding now and reaffirm it at any time in the future. This is actually quite common, especially now with so many young people in the armed forces.
So, in this case you can just about have your wedding cake and eat it too.
Congratulations on your graduation. College is a big job and graduating is something to be proud of.
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Thanks very much for your advice!! I am most definitely all ears on this issue, and I appreciate you taking the time out to respond. That means a whole lot! I'm also in the education field!! Thanks also for the congrats!!
mannersmith
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Aug 30, 2004, 9:36 PM
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Dear Andreesie,
Congratulations on finding the man you want to spend your life with. A three year engagement is a bit long, but perfectly appropriate for someone your age. There are a few different issues here. Saving money, while a noble pursuit, is not a reason to rush to live with someone or to get married. But you did not ask me about whether or not you should move in together. Yes, it is perfectly acceptable be married at one point in time and celebrate at another time. Generally, when doing so, the wedding ceremony is very, VERY small (10 or less). The reception can be whenever you decide the timing is right. When you are married, you may send wedding announcement and/or save the date cards to let friends and family know you are married and that you are planning a celebration later.
For wording for announcements, save the date cards or wedding reception invitations - I recommend The Crane's Wedding Blue Book.
I wish you all the best, Jodi R R Smith
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Aug 31, 2004, 12:41 AM
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I would wait until I finished school too. I also had a long engagement I was engaged 8-03 and my wedding is 9-05.
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