Second Marriage / Shower & Bachelor party planning
My husband & I planned his brother's wedding parties (bachelorette & bachelor). After the wedding the newlyweds (mostly the wife)after all the planning, financial contributions & very generous wedding gift, told us that we could've given them more if we hadn't spent so much on food etc. for the parties. (They even asked for a monetary gift for their wedding & wanted it before so they could use it to pay for their honeymoon). When my husband and I got married a few years after them, my husband asked his brother to be his best man. He accepted. We found out from another brother one month before our wedding that the brother was bailing and moving to another state. Never mentioning it to us. They never acknowledged our wedding with even a card of congratulations! Now that he's divorced from his first, he's getting married again. My husband was asked to be his best man. He of course said yes, as I said yes to being a bridesmaid. (maybe not a wise decision). This wedding is out of state and we've been given phone numbers of the wedding party so that a bridal shower & bachelor party can be arranged. I'm having a hard time with this and don't know what to do. We really don't want to have this huge expense the party planning will bring. Also, we are perplexed as to what to do about planning out of state parties. Is it acceptable, since most of the groom's family is here to just plan a family/friends event here and let the other bridal party do one in the state they live in? Do we pay for a plane ticket to get here? Any advice you can give will be greatly appreciated!!
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Re: [confused06] Second Marriage / Shower & Bachelor party planning
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Dear Confused,
Since both of you hosted his last pre-wedding parties, you are not expected to do it this time. In fact, these are all optional parties anyway.
Plus, you don't even have to give him gifts. If you wish to co-host a shower where you live, you may. But, this is your choice. One reason why it probably isn't necessary is that everyone who attended the first shower is not obligated to give anything this time around. So, it would be a giftless shower, which isn't such a negative these days.
And, no. You are not responsible for paying for his travel expenses.
Second Marriage / Shower & Bachelor party planning
