This is my second wedding but my fiance's first. We are going to be married in the Catholic church. My previous marriage was annulled. (My ex-husband is deceased.) My fiance is from a very traditional Catholic family. What are the rules for our wedding? Can I have the dream wedding I never had or should it be low key since I was married before?
annemjuhlian
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Nov 7, 2006, 4:23 PM
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Hi there. I am a non-denominational Wedding Minister in Seattle, Washington and I was raised in the Catholic tradition and no longer practice. But what I know from my experience and colleagues currently within the Catholic religion is that every Priest and Deacon is very different - just like every parish - just like parts of the country are somewhat more traditional and others more liberal. This is a question for the Priest and Deacon working with you - hopefully he will be able to accommodate your wishes as appropriate for the Catholic tradition. Don't be afraid to make requests - and make them bold! Annemarie Juhlian, Wedding Officiant & Minister
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Nov 21, 2006, 2:53 PM
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Thanks for your inquiry. I come from a more liberal/progressive background (Berkeley, California) than most of the Catholic priests who tend to be traditional in their ministry style. I would have no problem encouraging the couple to celebrate their wedding as if it were their first wedding. However, there are priests who are rigid, strict and traditionalist in their pastoral viewpoint. They could demand that you "low key" your wedding. As someone pointed out, it all depends on the priest who is celebrating your wedding ceremony. Hopefully, you will be blessed with an open minded pastor who is supportive of you. I firmly believe that the wedding ceremony is something personal for the couple and the priest/ minister should guide the couple but not become overly rigid and inflexible. Reverend Daniel Kane, All Faiths Weddings http://www.allfaithsweddings.com
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