Second Wedding and Reception Timing- Food and Mentioning No Gifts
This is both of our second marriages (we are 36 & 34). We both wanted to keep it as simple as possible. We are getting married in a church with only one attendant each plus his daughter & my son (ages 12 & 9). I had wanted a mid afternoon wedding (around 2 or 3) with a cake & punch/coffee reception immediately following. Due to conflicts in time with the church we will have to have a 5 or 6:00 wedding. My mom insists that I have to serve food, my groom thinks we should have a "potluck" and I still would prefer just cake & such. Also since we are combining 2 households we'd prefer not to receive gifts. My mother thinks we should put on the invitation "please no gifts" but everything I've found about proper etiquette says not to say that on the invitation.
HELP!!!!
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Re: [kscott] Second Wedding and Reception Timing- Food and Mentioning No Gifts
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Dear Wants to Keep it Simple, Your mother is correct that for that time of day you should have a meal. Please do not have a pot luck. This is in extremely bad taste. If you host a party, you are expected to host it. It is never acceptable for the guests to do so. It may be better to schedule your wedding for a different day. You could also serve a buffet of rolls, meats, and cheeses also. This is not expensive. It is never acceptable to write "no gifts" on wedding invitations. It is best to spread the word by word of mouth. Best wishes, Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now