I am the mother of a beautiful 8 year old. Her father and I were never married. He is now marrying the maid of honor from our canceled wedding (who is also my daughter's Godmother). My daughter was not invited to the bridal shower but is the flower girl in the wedding. Do I need to get a present for her to bring to the wedding? If not, will it look like I didn't because of all the bad history (which I don't care about now - our life without him is great) and reflect badly on my daughter? If have to purchase a gift, do I select something personal or something off their registry?
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Your daughter sounds like she has a terrific mom! It's not easy being a single mom. Kudos to you for your very positive attitude and for putting your daughter's feelings first.
Your daughter should have a wedding gift for her father and new stepmother. I think she is probably old enough to select her own gift, with your help, of course. Perhaps setting a monetary limit and then going off shopping could work, as long as that won't be too difficult for you. If that's too emotional, let her select something off the registry and/or have her make something if she is at all inclined. Letting her be involved in the gift selection or construction can really be meaningful to her father and to her.
Typically, gifts are sent to the home of the bride before the wedding. But, if this were my daughter, I would break with etiquette and have her hand deliver it so they can open it together before the wedding, if at all possible.
Keep doing a great job of supporting your daughter! I wish you all well. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Great advice! I completely agree and couldn't have said it better.
Family often gives the couple their gifts personally, so the etiquette rule is easily broken here. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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