My boyfriend and I would like to plan a surprise wedding (it is the second marriage for both of us)-- is it ok to plan it for a festival/event where we know all of our friends and family will be attending (it is a cultural festival that includes dinner)?
I don't want people to think we are being cheap (because they have to pay to attend this festival) -- we simply want to surprise them at the event by exchanging our vows in the middle of the festivities.
On one hand, this appears as sweet and could be a special surprise for all. But, on the other more realistic and logical hand, this isn't polite or fair.
In affect, your guests would be paying for your wedding and reception. You would be perverting a cultural event to be all about you. And, you would be doing all of this on someone else's property. You are guests of those hosting the cultural event and should be considerate of their property and programming.
So, the surprise idea is a good one. Keep that part of the equation. Perhaps invite all of them to a party and surprise them with a wedding on your property and dime.
Surprise wedding ok?
