This is my second marriage and my fiance's third. He has two young children to his last marriage and we have a lot of contact with their mother. The thing is - I would like to take my maiden name and use it as a double-barrelled name along with his. Of course I don't want to keep my married name from my last marriage but neither do I want to be Mrs ** the third!! We've discussed this and my fiance is bothered as if he takes the double-barrelled name he doesn't want to have a different name from his children. I can understand that but at the same time feel uneasy about taking on his name. Also what happens when we have a child of our own?? Does that take the double-barrelled name, and then he'd have 3 kids with two different names!!! Totally stuck at what to do with the whole situation......
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You could be Mrs. maidenname-hislastname and your husband can stay Mr. Hislastname. Your child could be Jane Hislastname or Jane Maidenlastname-Hislastname. Both would be a good alternative since His;astname would be there in both options. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Thanks for that - I think that's going to be the only option. Would just have been nice for us both to have the same name but can't really see any other way round it. Have thought of that one before but was hoping someone would have the miracle answer to everything being perfect!
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What's the reason you don't want to just take his last name? Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Because we're not on the greatest terms with the ex and I don't really want to be same name as her. However the other reason is that I'd like to carry on my family name a little longer as my brother only has girls and after that it'll stop.
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I see. You should discuss this with your fiance since it sounds as though he has some very definite feelings about the name. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
The Surname Dilemma
