Third Wedding, Not Attending, Is it Necessary to send Gift
My brother in law is getting married for the third time. He is having the wedding in Mexico at an adults only resort, yet he is disappointed that his sisters (my wife included) are not going because of the expense, no accommodations for our kids or that fact that it's his third time around.
My wife feels that we should send a gift to them even though we aren't going. She has already given them a bridal shower gift. How many gifts do we need to give to this guy?
What would be the appropriate thing to do here?
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Re: [open door] Third Wedding, Not Attending, Is it Necessary to send Gift
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Dear Open Door,
The shower gift wasn't even necessary. If your wife gave for a first wedding, she isn't obligated for another. Plus, if you aren't attending this wedding, a gift isn't obigatory. It's unfortunate that her brother is upset about guests not attending his wedding, but this is the reality about destination weddings.
Re: [open door] Third Wedding, Not Attending, Is it Necessary to send Gift
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Yes, but your wife may just want to wish her brother well and show her support. She could certainly do that by sending a card with a heartfelt note or, if she feels compelled to send a gift, it can be something inexpensive but meaningful. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Third Wedding, Not Attending, Is it Necessary to send Gift
