My fiancee is 10 years older than me. His ex is 12 years older than him. He adopted 2 of the 3 of her children. The step-daughter considers him her dad and is older than me. His other two children are 1 year and 6 years younger than me. I am 43. I have four children, a daughter 15 and 3 boys, 13, 11, and 9. My daughter is going to be my maid of honor. The boys are going to be ushers and I may also have them walk me down the aisle. I would really like to do some sort of unity ceremony (candles/sand) with my children. I don't want to exclude his children, but don't think they would feel comfortable since they are all grown and living on their own. Any ideas on how to include everyone and not make people feel awkward? And how do we handle his step-daughter who is actually older than me? I wouldn't want to leave her out, but she technically would not be my step-daughter.
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Re: Use of unity candle in 2nd wedding ceremony
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The family unity candle is not just for underage children, but for the entire family. You can include grandparents, adult children or any family member you would like to include in the unification of the new family being formed.
With regard to the adult daughter of your fiance - any "child" of his (I assume since he adopted her he considers her his child) would be considered your step-daughter by virtue of the marriage. If it is more comfortable, ask your fiance to speak to her to see if she would like to be included or be a member of the bridal party. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Use of unity candle in 2nd wedding ceremony
