My boyfriend and I are in our mid 30's and are starting to plan our wedding. It is my 2nd and his first. He's always pictured himself having the "traditional" big wedding in a church with full bridal party, tuxedos, and a bride in a big white wedding dress. My first wedding was large and "traditional" along these same lines, and I am not comfortable asking my family and friends to go through the same events again. I would much prefer to get married on a secluded beach someplace with only our best man and maid of honor with us. We both just want to make each other happy and do whatever the other wants, so we have agreed to try to find a compromise. Do you have any ideas on what we might be able to do in terms of reception theme, location, etc? We agreed to perhaps skip the church but still get married by a priest (my first marriage has been annulled), and we will likely have a large reception (100 - 200 ppl.) We want something elegant but affordable (we will be paying for the event ourselves). I am not comfortable wearing a traditional wedding dress, but I will wear something classy and classic likely in a light lavender or pale pink (or perhaps a fitted, elegant white sequined dress?) I'm at a loss for ideas. Can you point me in the right direction? I want him to be happy and he doesn't want me too be uncomfortable. We want to celebrate our new life on a positive note. (As an aside, there are no children involved, so that's not an issue for us.) Any thoughts, suggestions or other advice or ideas you have to offer are greatly appreciated. I don't know where to begin.
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Aug 13, 2007, 3:46 PM
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Re: [BrideAgain] My 2nd, his 1st:. Need a compromise re: formality
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Dear BrideAgain,
Don't worry about this being your second. It can be as formal as you wish. And, you can wear any type of dress you wish. The blusher veil is the only first time bride taboo.
You could host a small, intimate wedding and then a larger reception. This might bridge the gap a bit.
Sequins and beading are reserved for evening events.
formailty of a second wedding
