My husband works as a foreman within a large company. About 5 years ago, one of his workers got married and we were invited. We attended and, feeling some responsibility towards his workers, my husband gave them a fairly substantial gift of money. The marriage did not last a year. Now, the gentleman is marrying a second time, and both he and his fiancee have been married before. Both have children. Also, the man has not worked for the same company as my husband for over a year. My husband has not seen or heard from the man since he left his company. Yet, we were invited to his second wedding. We do not have any desire to attend, and I resent the fact that I now feel obligated to send another gift. I feel that they are just looking for money at this point! I should point out that the wedding is set at a location that is not costing the bride and groom much money themselves. Do we need to feel obligated to send a gift?
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Aug 9, 2005, 6:16 PM
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Re: [lauria32] gifts for couples on second marriages
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Dear Gifting,
No, you are not obligated to send a gift. You gave the first time around. Plus, I do not believe that an invitation is an obligation to send a gift. This isn't a belief that all share, but we are growing in numbers. :)
gifts for couples on second marriages
