This is my first wedding and his second. (march 25) His brother is getting married 2 months later (his first may 21). My soon to be mother in law refuses to give us a guest list for his side (friends family etc.) saying it is unfair to his brother, and we should send announcements out in june after his brothers wedding. What do I do? and is there propper ettiquite for this? Please Help also if there is something you suggest to get his mother to cooperate please let me know we have tried everything
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WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Jan 27, 2005, 8:30 PM
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Re: [rvh2] grooms second brides first wedding
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Dear Groom's Second,
It appears to me as if your groom's mother is concerned about your wedding being executed before her other son's and that maybe the two are scheduled too closely. But, I don't have the entire story, only what I read here. So, I have to go with what we have.
It seems as if there is no way to pressure your mother-in-law to be for family and friend's addresses that I can see. You say that both of you have tried. So, you will have to invite those whom you wish to attend and not worry about those whom you don't know. Just invite everyone you know and care about as long as it is within your budget.
You would send your announcements after your wedding at the end of March, not June.
Now, to send your announcements, you would require addresses. Right? If you have addresses for the announcements, you would have addresses for invitations. So, I am guessing, that you won't get those addresses until your groom's mother gives them to you. Humm...
The etiquette answer is that the announcements are sent soon after the wedding. I am guessing (again) that the groom's mother is also worried about the family buying gifts for both sons at once. One way to calm her may be to let her know that a receipt of an announcement is not a request for a gift.
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